Excuses

By Adam Welcome
no more

This blog post is for you, and this blog post is for me.

If you have an excuse. 

It’s a lie.

Bold statement alert – I know.

But it’s real. And it’s true. Stop doing it to yourself.

“It’s so cold outside, I’ll wait until later to workout.”

Put on a jacket and gloves, your body will warm up when you get started – don’t wait until later.

Blaming things on the weather is so easy to do, please stop. 

Don’t put yourself in a dangerous situation obviously – but so many times these excuses aren’t real.

I know people in California that blame weather all the time. 

California weather is pretty much amazing 350 days a year, weather excuses in California are not really valid.

“It’s so cold in the morning our kids can’t ride their bikes to school.”

WHAT?

Children in Finland ride their bikes to school all year round, even when the temperature is below zero. 

Put on a jacket and some gloves and think about the ride home after school when it’s a little bit warmer, you’ll be fine and so will your children.

And if the weather is too warm where you are to work out, wake up earlier.

I’m starting today with some old routines – waking up at 4:00am because there are some changes in my house and I need that time back to get work done and my workouts done. You can always take a nap later in the day if needed, embrace the cooler weather in the morning and stop making excuses.

A bike rack in Finland – hint….it’s pretty cold outside

“I’ve been thinking about starting a podcast, blog, Facebook show, YouTube channel, Instagram live, book club, coaching group etc and I’m just not sure how to get started or if I should because nobody may even want to join me.”

If you don’t know how to do something, Google it and learn.

My 9 year old daughter and my wife taught themselves how to play the ukulele entirely from YouTube videos. 

If you don’t know how to do something, you can learn – for free – on the Internet.

And if you don’t think anyone will join you, you’re wrong. 

You are a leader, you have a voice, your ideas are important and once you start putting yourself out there and developing that new idea, people will gather around you.

About six months ago my wife and I attended a social gathering with other 1st grade families. It was a meet and greet for parents at our kids school. 

I started chatting with another dad who I had seen at other events and our pool, but had never talked with before. I knew his name (Adam) and that he had a few children, but that was it.

I’m super easy to talk with and so is Adam. The conversation flowed, we asked each other some background and personal questions. 

And then I dropped it.

“Dude, you need to start a podcast.”

I talk with thousands of people every year from all over the country and I can usually tell when it’s appropriate and I’m able to drop an idea on someone with a little push.

The conversation stopped.

I went on with a few details and a platform that’s easy to use.

Adam looked at me and said –

“I’m doing it.”

The very next morning he texted me a link to his first episode (It was like 7:00am by the way, dude got up early) and that was it.

He didn’t have a podcasting microphone.

He didn’t have a script.

He didn’t have a website or a logo.

He didn’t have a studio.

He didn’t know what he wanted to talk about or any guests.

He didn’t have this well thought out plan that was polished and dialed in and perfectly ready. 

He just started.

He didn’t make an excuse.

He saw some value in the idea of starting a podcast.

And he did.

You don’t need it all figured out.

And I would argue, it’s better if you don’t have it all figured out.

Because if you think you have it all figured out, you waited too long to get started.

I’ve talked with Adam a bunch since that first episode and the stories he has and the connections he’s made and rekindled from old friends and colleagues are amazing, and they’re a direct result of his podcast. 

You don’t know what is down a road until you start walking – start walking and get started. 

Check out Adam here and his podcast, it’s legit!

“I’m too young – I’m too old.”

I just turned 41 a couple of weeks ago, but I feel like I’m 19.

Why do I say this and why do you care?

Because I think it’s important to think about.

I have a vivid memory of my own father turning 40 years old. My brother and I were little at the time and the neighborhood party with friends was all about him being ‘Over The Hill.’

At 40 – my dad was considered over the hill, which I think is so completely ridiculous to say and even think about.

I’m done thinking about my age – I’m done comparing my age to other people’s age – I’m done with thinking just because I’m over 40 years old I can’t do something or pursue a new idea or career or just about anything. 

You can do it. 

You just need to start.

Stop overthinking it. 

Stop talking about it. 

Stop building PowerPoint presentations. 

Don’t read another book or article or watch another video for ‘inspiration’ that will only delay your start time another few hours. 

Please stop.

And.

Start. Right. Now.

It’s not going to be perfect and it doesn’t need to be. Every little perceived problem that you’re thinking about is just an excuse. 

Do you know who cares about your perceived problems and excuses – only you. 

I’m 41 and I have big goals.

My age is not a barrier, it’s an asset. 

So please stop – and get started.

“I’m not that techie.”

This statement is common, it’s a doozie – and it’s a lie.

Whatever you do in your life, you’re techie, trust me.

My wife’s grandmother called me about five years ago with a question.

“I’m tired of AOL email and want to come over to Gmail.”

Can you help me convert?

Heck yea I can help you – I didn’t even know AOL was still around!

I went over to her house.

Got everything converted.

All her contacts and lists.

Sent everyone an email with her new address.

She was good to go.

About two weeks later I’m sitting at home on my computer sending some emails and my daughter is on my lap.

You know in Gmail on the left hand side you can see who’s ‘on’ at the moment.

It said ‘Gram.’

I tell my daughter that Gram is on and we should send her a message.

“Hey Gram, it’s Adam and Greta…..how are you?”

Now it says ‘Gram Is Typing’ – ………..

And we’re waiting

And waiting

And waiting

I type – “Hit enter’……..

“Oh my gosh, hello dear, this is amazing.”

We were instant messaging with my wife’s grandmother which I thought was pretty cool.

A few months ago she called me for some other type of tech related issue she was dealing with.

Now Gram lives five minutes from my house, and by the time I got over there and walked in her front door she had already figured it out.

This woman is my kids great-grandmother – just to give you some perspective on her age.

She’s not a young woman.

I asked her a question.

“How do you do all these ‘techie’ things Gram, what’s your secret?”

You know what she said.

“I just hover and click on things.”

Ya’ll ——-

She’s 98 years old.

I’ll say it again — 

If you have an excuse. It’s a lie.

Do.

Try.

Experiment.

Tinker.

Ask.

That’s it and that’s where you start.

Three years ago I ran one marathon every month for the entire year. Most people that run marathons maybe do two or three in a year, I was going to run twelve.

Why?

Because I wanted to maximize my full potential as a human being.
To see if I could.

And I wasn’t even sure if I’d be able to run that many marathons, work full-time, support my family and stay healthy.

There are thousands of excuses I could have made as to why this was a bad idea and why I shouldn’t or couldn’t or wouldn’t do it and be able to finish.

But I didn’t.

The idea came into my head.
I told my wife.

And then sat down and registered for all the marathons.

Because if you wait – 

You’ll start lying to yourself – 

The excuses will start to develop – 

Doubt will creep in – 

And you shouldn’t let that happen –

Please stop making excuses and start making memories.

You got this.

I believe in you.

I know you can do it.

Think big.
Act small.

Tell your friends.

Tell your family.

Tell yourself.

No more waiting.

And no more excuses.

There’s more to the marathon story. I actually ran 13 marathons that year and a 24 hour race. Here I am at the finish line, after running for 24 straight hours and completing 103 miles.

Adam Welcome

Adam Welcome

Adam has been an elementary school teacher, Principal, Director of Innovation for a large school district in the Bay Area and is also an author and speaker.

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